Certainty not

 

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We human beings love control and like to think it’s possible to get our arms completely around the course of our lives. We’re always trying to “get on top of things,” so “by next week (next month, next season…never) things will have calmed down.” But, if there’s one thing that will show you who’s boss with that theory, it’s life itself. You can fight it, or you can roll with it. Both can be pretty uncomfortable, but the latter is probably less so, and the discomfort that comes with it is the kind that can be turned into, well, growth, if you let it. How do you manage that? Inhale, exhale, and just be there with it. Some things, people, and events just are what they are. What you decide to make of that can either serve you, or trip you up.

Expectations are everything, right? Or, as it turns out, maybe not having any is the way to go.


Questionable story

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How are you at pep talks? When a friend needs a little boost to make it through a tough time or challenging experience, are you one of those people who can usually give them the motivation they need to keep going? I mean, we can all quickly say “You got this” when we see someone on the strugglebus, but some people seem to have a gift for saying exactly the right thing to ignite the spark that keeps the fire lit a little longer. Certain people can do that for others AND for themselves as well… Read More


Come through

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Mindfulness isn’t easy. Focusing your attention on one singular thing, returning your attention to that place when distractions – internal and external – try to pull you away, and maybe even trying to sit still for more than a few seconds…these intentions are the opposite of how we live our everyday lives. We never have to be focused on one thing – in fact, we hardly know how to be even if we wanted to. And if we’re going to be still for any period of time, we’re either going to be asleep or staring at a screen.

So, it’s no surprise that many people give up on mindfulness pretty early on. We don’t like to not be good at things, and society doesn’t exactly reinforce the value of contemplative thought these days. So why not just bail, right? And then, it happens…  Read More