Monday Moment: Hustle or flow

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We all want to be seen for exactly who we are. Yet, when we step out into the world, we’re afraid to show who that is. We focus outward, and ask ourselves, “Who do I need to be in order to succeed in this space?”

Adaptability is a survival skill. It helps us belong, which reduces the odds that we’ll freeze or starve to death, in a primitive sense. But as Brené Brown said in her recent Netflix special, belonging and fitting in are two different things.

Fitting in means molding yourself. Figuring out what “they” want, and giving it to them. Standing outside of your story, and trying to validate your worthiness based on what “they” need.

Belonging is owning your shit and being accepted for it. ALL of it. Yup, this is me, and this is all of my stuff, and take or leave it. This is my story. I’m gonna walk inside it, and know my worthiness is BECAUSE of it, not despite it.

So…what if you’re in a space where you have to adapt to thrive? Can you make being there a choice instead of an obligation? Can you preserve yourself in the process? Or, is it time to find a new space?

When we have the strength to own our story and present ourselves exactly as we are, looking for people and spaces where that true self is valued, we burst wide open, in the best possible way. Our potential becomes limitless, because we are operating with all of our personal power.

The truth is never good or bad, it’s neutral. It’s how we see it that makes it one or the other. As you wake up this Monday, how do you see your beautiful self? Spoiler alert, I just gave you a clue. ;-)

 


Fully charged

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People say that darndest things, don’t they? I think that adage is actually about kids, but these days, it seems to apply as much to adults as preschoolers. There are a lot of big, important issues front and center in the world, and tensions are running high. Conversations easily turn into debates, and in the blink of an eye, blur into full-on arguments.

Most of us don’t like arguing, so before things go south, we back away, or avoid the conversation all together. Read More


#NoFilter

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We all know at least one of these people. They are the ones who say exactly what they’re thinking. They don’t hide their emotions, seem to share every opinion, and are unapologetically who they are every moment of every day. As you think about a person like this in your life, you may find yourself of two minds about them. First, you think of the damage they sometimes do – the feelings they hurt (intentionally or not), the opportunities they may squash through lack of tact, the relationships they may lose over words and actions that are, let’s say, “direct” in nature.

Your second mind, though, probably leans a little differently. Read More