Acceptance, and the lack thereof

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Yes, that’s right. It’s that time of year again. If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ve seen this one before. You never learn the same thing twice, though, so there may be something new for you in it this time around.

Try that “beginner’s mind” thing. It actually works. ;-)

With MBA admissions decisions rolling out fast and furious at the moment, bottles are popping, for sure. But in other places, hearts are a little sore right now.

Sometimes we win, and sometimes we don’t. In those moments, we’re the ones who need to be practicing acceptance.  Read More

Monday Moment: Best laid plans

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You didn’t see it coming. This isn’t what was supposed to happen. You didn’t plan for this. Sometimes it’s easy to see how our expectations keep us out of the present moment, and sometimes it isn’t. When you don’t like what’s going on because it’s not the idea you had in mind for how things were going to be, it’s normal to try to fight it. Anger, frustration, disappointment, blame…all of these emotions result from clinging to the idea of your original plan, even when that plan is clearly not playing out.

You know I’m never going to tell you not to feel what you’re feeling. If you don’t, those emotions are just gonna hide somewhere and find their way out later when you least expect – or want – them to. You can make the choice, though, to get tangled up in them and dwell on the future you thought was coming, or move forward in the present that is. You can hold the grudge, be angry, and plot revenge if you really want to. But do you really want to? Is that the present you want to live in?

I mean, it’s Monday and you can’t change that. Stick around long enough, though, and in fewer than 24 hours, it will change itself.

Photo credit: Michael Podger

Gotta have it


Last year around this time, I wrote a post about “acceptance, and the lack thereof.” Acceptance is a Buddhist concept often incorporated into mindfulness (which is not an explicitly Buddhist practice), that basically encourages you to be real about the circumstances around you. Struggling with whether things should or shouldn’t be the way they are won’t change them. Sometimes, you can change what you don’t like. Other times, it is what it is.

As I noted last year, there are times when this is easier than others. Read More