Come through

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Mindfulness isn’t easy. Focusing your attention on one singular thing, returning your attention to that place when distractions – internal and external – try to pull you away, and maybe even trying to sit still for more than a few seconds…these intentions are the opposite of how we live our everyday lives. We never have to be focused on one thing – in fact, we hardly know how to be even if we wanted to. And if we’re going to be still for any period of time, we’re either going to be asleep or staring at a screen.

So, it’s no surprise that many people give up on mindfulness pretty early on. We don’t like to not be good at things, and society doesn’t exactly reinforce the value of contemplative thought these days. So why not just bail, right? And then, it happens…  Read More


No-Fail Friday: I see you

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This week, we uncovered the (not-so) secret truth that mindfulness is sneaky. Not sneaky in the sense that it’s dishonest or pretending to be something it’s not, but more so in how it has the tendency to come around when you least expect it. For example, you find you’re more focused than usual during a challenging activity, you’re calmer than is typical during a conversation with a person who usually sets you off, you didn’t completely lose your “ish” as you previously would when something unexpected threw a curveball in your plans. It may not happen all the time, or even most of the time, but you never forget the first time you notice it. You were intentional, present – mindful – and you weren’t even trying. It just happened, all by its own powerful self.

Now, moments like this can take some time – and practice – to conjure, which is where this weekend’s “no-fail” mindfulness challenge asks you to step up.  Read More


Life-changing

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News flash: mindfulness meditation isn’t easy. Shocking to those who’ve tried it, I know (note sarcasm between lines here). But, yes, it turns out trying to focus your attention in a specific direction for an extended (even two minutes feels “extended” on some days) period of time is pretty challenging. One thing many of us overachieving types bump up against as a result is our discomfort with not being “good” at mindfulness, and the immediate urge to bolt so that we don’t have to feel those uncomfortable feels. That’s an interesting observation in and of itself – that impulse to avoid what we don’t excel at – but it also keeps you from experiencing some of the greatest benefits of mindfulness: the ones that show up when you least expect it, in your regular, everyday life.  Read More