Boundary issues

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You know how there’s supposed to be this thing you’re doing in life of “getting to know yourself”? You’re out there trying to to figure out what is most important to you, how and with whom you want to spend your time, and most of all…WHAT YOU’RE GOOD AT. You know, so you can do more of that, and less of the things you aren’t so good at.

That’s smart right? Leveraging your strengths, going from good to indisputably great.

I mean, yeah. Sure. If you like playing it relatively safe most of the time.

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Creepy crawly

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In this season of all things spooky, it seems logical to think of fear as a choice. We can put ourselves in positions to be intentionally scared, or if we’re caught off guard, we catch our breath and laugh it off. Nothing to actually fear, right? So we push it away.

Truth is, we’re all kind of scared, though. No really, pretty much all of us, and it doesn’t have anything to do with black cats or skeletons or goblins, et. al.  Read More


Drop it already

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You know what it feels like to be worried about something, right? The way that your mind becomes preoccupied with thoughts of various scenarios (usually more with the worst cases), the way your body clenches and hunches and your breath pretty much disappears. Worry, and its good friends anxiety and fear, draw our attention away from our bodies and almost completely into our minds, while simultaneously asking our bodies to do a whole lot of work.

Kind of like when a friend asks you to hold something for them for a second, and then forgets they asked and eventually, you’re just standing there with aching arms. That’s your body holding your “stuff” for you. And it’s down for it, you know? Read More