“No-Fail” Friday: Third wheel


This week we got into indecision, and the occasional conflict between decisions that “make sense” but also make us happy. In my experience, the struggle of those moments is often marked by one critical, missing ingredient: intuition.

More often than not, tough decisions are about the push-pull of your emotions versus your intellect – what you want, and what you think you “should” do. As those two sides take each other on, a third perspective may be quietly trying to be heard. Intuition is the alignment of your “feel” and your “think.” It’s a part of you that knows both what you want and why it would be best for you. Trouble is, it can be wicked hard to hear underneath all that internal noise already underway. Read More

Monday Moment: Seeking clarity

A Watts_Muddy water quote w tag

Doesn’t sound like a half-bad idea, does it? No one’s exactly looking to deal with mud unless they have to, so…sure. I’ll leave it alone.

When it comes to the muddy waters of indecision, uncertainty, ambiguity, and all their awkward cousins, it’s a totally different story. We are all up in that mud, day in and day out, in that can’t-focus-can’t-sleep kinda distracted that only being (mentally) surrounded by mud can produce.  We really can’t stop messing with it, trying to “fix” the lack of clarity by kicking up more mud.

So, yes, you probably do have to make a decision, or become more clear about what’s going on. But, sometimes the worst way to approach it is with forcible effort. It’s hard to hear your intuition when you’re running a panic loop on high volume internally.

Instead, try letting it be, at least for a little while. Let the cards shuffle themselves, and see if they don’t fall a little more clearly into place without you trying to push them around.

The answers are always there, just sometimes they’re a little (or a lot) buried. If you can get comfortable with the discomfort of that, then – strangely enough – your time spent there will likely be shorter-lived.

Just like Monday. ;-) Have a mindful one.