Monday Moment: Careful calibration

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The best approach this Monday morning is probably to just leave Ms. Waheed’s mic on the floor where she left if after this one. I mean….whoa. And, yup.

What if you started this week – busy and full and challenging as it may appear – full of gratitude for being the person who is capable of so many things? Imagine pouring your energy into the things that mean the most to you without the added layer of thinking about how you look, or sound, or how that conversation went, and are you being “just right” throughout all of it.

Yes to kindness and respect for your fellow humans. Yes to self-awareness and intentional living. Hard pass to self-consciousness and self-doubt that pulls your attention and energy away from the things that matter most to you, and onto something that is already as capable and beautiful and perfectly right as it needs to be.

If you’re going to pay attention to yourself, do it with gratitude. Do it with wonder. Most of all, do it with love.


Monday Moment: Declined

N Waheed_no freedom quote w tag

I don’t know about you, but my schedule for this week is slightly terrifying. I mean, not really, because I know that things happen one at a time, and if I’m present wherever I am at any given moment, it will all be good. There’s a lot on it, though. A LOT. Mostly things I like, which is a big factor in my belief that it will all get done. Still, though, the situation raises a good question.

How much of what is on your agenda for the week was intentionally put there by you? How much of it just landed there because you didn’t say no? Of course, there are a few things that are non-negotiable, for all of us. But, I’m talking about the other things — the commitments, events, meetings, etc. that wouldn’t be there if you hadn’t let them land there. Or, if you hadn’t NOT not let them land there.

You probably already know the answers, but if saying them out loud makes you cringe, it’s time to re-evaluate your reflexive reaction to requests for your time. Don’t worry, we’ll get more into it on Wednesday.

For now, take a deep breath. Yes, it’s called Monday, but it’s also just a day. Don’t let it get the best of you. Or you know what: actually, do.