Monday Moment: Mirror image

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When it comes to relationships, we tend to think about whether we get along with other people in terms of their personality, characteristics, and quirks. What we forget is that we’re the other half of the equation. This is true not only as far as the alchemy of human connection goes, but also in the depth at which we are capable of understanding other people.

We experience everything we look at, and everyone we meet, through the lens of our own perception. We have a built-in filter that constantly checks our previous experiences for comparable references to our current one, to help us understand it. In the same way, our perceptions of the people we encounter are filtered through our understanding of ourselves. We see things we recognize, for better or for worse. Often, the things that challenge us most about other people are the qualities we (secretly, quietly) least admire in ourselves. Conversely, we gravitate towards people whose perspectives and values most closely mirror our own.

The more you know, the deeper you can go, and the more authentic any and all of your relationships can be, starting with the one you have with yourself. They all actually begin with that one.

Connectivity issues

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You know that saying that no person is an island? You’ve probably heard it before, and maybe even the first time you did, you thought, “Obviously…wait, what does that mean?” It’s kind of an odd metaphor, but its point is valid. None of us can – or should – live in isolation. None of us really does, unless we’re trying to. And these days, you’d think you’d have to try pretty hard.  Read More

Monday Moment: Presently available

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One way to look at this quote on a Monday morning is to think about how much you probably don’t want to face the fact that it’s time to part ways with the weekend, and dive into the obligations and challenges of the week ahead. Ouch, I know. I’m human, and I’m feeling it too. But the truth is, the good stuff (and the not so good stuff) is always with you, because it’s within you. You don’t need to look far, or even necessarily away, to find it. Today’s just a day, and just because it isn’t labeled “weekend” doesn’t mean it can’t be a good one. Fun, happiness, even the neutral, sometimes unwelcome truth, all reside right there within you. Catch your breath, and tap in. To take a twist on one of my fave quotes from Rumi, what you’re seeking may in fact already have found you — or at least be available for lunch. ;-)

Photo credit: Brad Stallcup