Pouring it hot

Aerial view of hot tea drink with copy space

It feels so good, though, doesn’t it? Sometimes, anyway. That moment when you realize the person across the room from you is thinking the same thing about that other person, who just did something you both thought was super weird. Or, when you finally get the chance to grab some drinks with your work bestie, and blast your way through your entire floor before the ice has even melted on round one.

It’s easy, and so. very. human. We love to bond with each other because it makes us feel like we belong, which in turn makes us feel safe. Light chatter of the “hot tea” (aka, fresh gossip) variety also subtly reinforces what’s “normal” and “ok,” and what isn’t, according to us anyway – and hopefully the person listening. Kind of like…judgement. Well, exactly like it.

Fine.

I’m not saying you’re never gonna divulge a juicy, hot-off-the-DM tidbit ever again. I’m also not saying I’m going to stop listening if you do. Buuuut, we could probably both do a little better some of the time to at least be aware of the choice. Pay attention to the little signals your mind and body send you when the intention has gone a little off the rails, and gotten lost. Maybe go ahead and just take a breath, and let that tea cool a minute before you sip.


“No-Fail” Friday: Only the lonely

Headphones crossing street_Henry Be

Arriving into a Friday afternoon, most of us have one of two primary motivations for the evening ahead: 1) turn up, or 2) curl up. The one of those that sounds most appealing to you on any given Friday may have a lot to do with the kind of week you’ve had, what lies ahead for the rest of your weekend, or even the weather. It’s interesting to notice, though, because a big part of the choice is about whether you’re feeling like you want company or not. It’s about whether you want to be out there with the masses, or at home in the company of yourself, and maybe a select few others.

Are you in or are you out? Or maybe you’re in more of an “ask me in an hour” place. I get that. We all know that usually means you’re staying at home, though.  Read More