Who, me?

Backpack guy in mountains_Danka&Peter_Stocksnap

There’s this saying in the world that you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone, which I think may be the case sometimes. I also think, though, that the opposite can be true. There are moments in life when we think we know exactly what we want, and do everything in our power to try to achieve it. Then when we get it, we start backtracking. We may get super creative with reasons why it’s suddenly a bad idea, or won’t work right now, or proof that the opportunity itself is somehow inauthentic – as in, we don’t deserve it. Being faced with evidence that we are actually as worthy, capable, and even powerful as we hoped we might be can be scary, and if we don’t navigate that space mindfully, that fear can cost us opportunity.  Read More

“No-Fail” Friday: On purpose

Water drop_Paweł Chrząszczewski_Stocksnap

It goes without saying that winning is fun. As we talked about earlier this week, it also can come with significant momentum that makes future wins seem even more likely. This is all well and good, unless and until that momentum becomes inertia. It can be a quiet transition, and perhaps even go unnoticed, until one day you realize that winning isn’t as fun as it used to be.

Our mindfulness challenge this weekend is about uncovering this inertia. It’s both a simple and complicated task. Read More


Happily ever after_Ben Rosett_Stocksnap

Last week we talked about the messy business of jealousy, and what it feels like to watch someone else achieve something that you’d really like to have gotten for yourself. It’s messy because it’s multi-dimensional. Jealousy starts out being directed towards someone else, but quickly comes right back atcha, getting mixed up with feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt, with the final layer of self-judgment for feeling all those feelings in the first place. Jealousy is the sangria of emotions. You can’t be totally sure what’s in it, and even if you think it feels good at first, eventually you’re in for a headache – or worse. Winning is different, though. When you’re the one scooping up the trophies, that’s when the Dom starts flowing. Headache, what? Not a chance.  Read More