Win-win situation

As a coach, I do a lot of work with people who are trying to achieve a particular goal. Sometimes, it’s about making something specific happen, like getting into an MBA program or positioning themselves for a career transition. Other times, it’s about getting “unstuck,” and gaining clarity about what comes next, and how to move forward into it.

Amongst my coaching tools, I include mindfulness because it helps connect us to ourselves, which is usually where the answers lie. People often want me to tell them the answers, and maybe that’s what they think I’m actually doing. Really, though, coaching is about offering perspectives, asking questions, and helping someone to see what they already know, and articulate what’s within them for the rest of the world to understand. Or, at least hear. ;-)

One space where I do a lot of coaching is around performance.

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Bubbling over


There’s been a theme in my work at as a coach and an instructor over the past week or so. Even though it’s summer, which is supposedly the most relaxed time of the year, many of us are feeling just the opposite. Life seems a little dialed up this summer, for lots of different reasons. Read More

Wise effort

Nathan Engel

You know how sometimes, the harder you work at something, the harder it seems to get it right? The farther you get from it and the longer it takes, the more frustrated you become, and then…it gets even harder to get it right. It’s like you get caught up in a cycle of misfiring, and can’t get a win. The emotion of agitation, the story you start telling yourself about how it’s not going according to plan, the future-tripping you dive into about what’s going to happen next, and next…these all take away from your focus, which takes away from your performance.

So how do you get a handle on yourself when it seems like circumstances are pretty well handling you?

First, you stop. Read More